MS can change your sex life, no question. But there are so many ways for you to take control. Learn tips on how to make sex exciting, intimate, playful, and fun again.
It's Not You, It's the MS
The sex problems you have may just be symptoms of MS. Just like fatigue or dizziness. Most people with MS have them at some point. So if your libido is low and things that used to turn you on now seem ho-hum, don't feel down.
These symptoms aren't permanent. Taking care of yourself, changes in your lifestyle, and other treatments can help with sex problems, just as they help with other symptoms of MS.
Map your body. Your body may feel different than it used to. Get in touch with that, says Rosalind Kalb, PhD, of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society. Take time to time explore it: Lock the bedroom door, relax, and take 15 minutes feeling every part of your body. "Figure out what feels good, what doesn't, and what hurts," she says. This isn't about masturbation, although that's good, too. It's about taking stock of what your body feels now.
Tell your partner. Once you have a sense of what feels good, share what you've learned with your partner. He or she likely wants to know. Your partner may have been nervous or worried about accidentally hurting you.
Reset your relationship. “When you have MS, you and your partner talk a lot about your health," says Cindy Richman of the Multiple Sclerosis Association of America. "You may start to feel more like a patient than a person." You may feel less sexual and desirable. To reconnect, set aside times where you agree nottalk about MS. It's important.
Be Bold in the Bedroom
Treat your MS as an opportunity to try different things in bed.
Try new positions. Your old standbys, like the missionary position, may be uncomfortable now. Try others. Use pillows or rolled-up towels to support parts of your body to make you more comfortable. Also try oral sex or using your hands more.
Experiment with sex toys. If you need more stimulation than you used to, try using sex toys, both alone and with your partner.
Add lubricant. Vaginal dryness is a common symptom of MS. So buy a water-based lubricant. Use a lot of it -- people tend to use too little, Kalb says.
Redefine sex. Try to focus more on the experience and less on checking off the boxes. Sex doesn't mean you have to have intercourse. You and your partner don't have to climax. You can still have an intimate -- and sexy -- experience
Plan. Good sex doesn’t have to be spontaneous. Plan ahead. Decide on a day and time. Anticipation might build your excitement. Choose the time of day when you feel best -- you may have more energy in the morning than at night.
source : Better Sex If You Have Multiple Sclerosis (MS)
